Saturday, July 30, 2005
female vs male bloggers
Female vs. Male Bloggers.
Not how they "naturally" differ by "genetics" or "instinctual orientation".
Rather: how they have been conditioned by social pressures and peer conformity enforcement, overt and subtle, to behave in recognizable and functional patterns for an evenflow of communication and subsequent action.
How women bloggers differ from "their male counterparts".
counter = to respond aggressively to a foe's act of aggression, to speak out against, to engage in verbal or physical combat with.
part = to separate ("part the Red Sea"), move things away from each other, divide, abandon or leave ("part with something or someone"), put distance between two items, make a demarcation zone ("part the hair"), a scripted speech or action ("actor's part in the play"), a divisible section, segment, less than the whole, a piece ("my favorite part of the story", "I paid my part of the luncheon bill, and left a tip for all of us").
Here we already face a monolithic obstacle: the language of contrary forces, conflictual context, militant stances firmly planted on slippery slopes slanting in opposite directions, but leading to the same inevitability.
For a male, is the female the "opposite" (antagonistic, enemy, foreign, alien) sex?
Or is she the "complimentary, congruent" sex?
And why the word "sex" when gender is more clinically correct?
"My better half" is a cry for help, the unmoderated consciousness halving, thirdenizing, fourthifying itself in an auto-massacre that can only escape description by pretending to be exactly what it actually is.
Boy vs. girl in synthesis and analysis, not "boy vs. girl" in conflict or opposition.
Not even setting one set of observed behaviors "against" the other.
The female behaviors will not be compared to the male behaviors but will each be seen as separate information sets that are not commenting, as investigative concept units, on each other.
Not: boy bloggers do this, BUT girl bloggers do that.
Rather: boy bloggers do this usually, AND here's also what girl bloggers do usually.
Not rules: "gentleman bloggers follow these rules, and lady bloggers have this set of rules to obey".
Rather: "blogger guys tend to ________________" and "blogger gals tend to ____________".
Not: "that's a feminine blogging style" and "this is a masculine post writing technique".
Rather: "most lady bloggers seem to write in ____________ tone" and "most gentleman bloggers tend to write in ____________ tone".
Not: "this blog post is too girly sounding" or "that blog design is very ruggedly masculine".
Rather: "this blog post is very nuturing in a maternal manner" or "that blog design is reminiscent of a stereotypical quality designated 'manliness' as based on prevalent cultural expectations of current privileged Western upper economic scale social hegemony".
Not: "\\as a boy/\as a girl/\//blogger---you must do this".
But: "\\as a boy/\as a girl/\//blogger---your audience might expect you to do this".
Anyone may feel free to contribute their experiences to this discussion.
Fresh insights, accumulated observations, and random hunches are welcome.
I'm going to keep this Female vs. Male topic going, with multiple, though not necessarily sequential, posts on the topic.
Female vs. Male online shopping.
Female vs. Male online combat.
Female vs. Male web design.
Female vs. Male blog topics.
Female vs. Male forum interaction.
Female vs. Male blog RSS feed provision.
Female vs. Male use of photos and art in blogs.
Female vs. Male tendency to ban or blacklist.
Female vs. Male attendance at blog conferences.
Female vs. Male online writing styles.
Think about dude vs. missy blogs.
Do lady bloggers act more sensitive about language used in comments?
Do lady bloggers have less tolerance toward rebels and contrarian opinions?
Do lady bloggers have more patience toward expressed emotional problems?
Do gentlemen bloggers have longer and more text oriented posts?
Do gentlemen bloggers mention family less than lady bloggers?
Do gentlemen bloggers tend to attack flamers more harshly than sister bloggers?
Stay tuned to the Vaspers the Grate family of blogs.
You shan't regret it. I primrose.
[signed] Steven Streight aka Contemplative Garden Hoe, the Web Usability Gardener.
Posted by steven edward streight at 7/30/2005 10:07:00 AM